People tend to maximize the impact others have on their failures while minimizing their own contribution to negative results. Likewise, they maximize their personal contributions towards any success while discounting the contribution of others. They DO NOT realize that distancing themselves from a situation or problem does nothing to eliminate one of the major factors that are tough to run from – that being the person they see whenever they look in a mirror. We can run from places, situations, relationships and the ramifications of the choices we make but we cannot alter “who we are” or how we react by simply positioning ourselves in a different space or time. When recognizing the need for change and identifying the steps needed to implement it, “the monster in the closet” that needs addressing is often “us” (and the things we do) rather than “them” (or the things done to us). Identifying and owning our own role in creating a roadblock to success is vital if we are to overcome the obstacles in front of us. Realistically establishing what role we played in the success of an endeavor (rather than claiming all the credit while shifting all the blame) will help build “transferable problem solving skills” that will serve us well.
Too many people live in a world of “what is” rather than in one of “what if.” They like to make excuses for
Change can be good (if it is intentional rather than accidental and responsive or anticipatory rather than reactive) but we should never “change for change sake.” Before running where brave men refuse to walk we should ask WHY we wish to move, WHAT we plan to do upon arrival and HOW those actions, thoughts or attitudes will be different than the ones we chose to leave behind. People cannot be “something different” by simply changing their environment – they must change who and what they are (along with where they choose
Change does not come easily – we must intentionally invest ourselves if different results are expected – results that cannot occur if we are doing things the same way we always have done them (even if it might be in a different location). Words describe what one wishes to accomplish - actions (and results) define success.