The Employers' Association

The Employers’ Association (TEA) is a not-for-profit employers’ association, formed in 1939, with offices in Grand Rapids serving the West Michigan employer community. We help more than 600 member companies maximize employee productivity and minimize employer liability through human resources and management advice, training, survey data, and consulting services.

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Tuesday, February 11, 2014

VALUE THE TIME YOU ARE GIVEN IN LIFE

Why is it that people tend to rush to judgment, hurry up to wait, and do ANYTHING but “stop to smell the roses?”  Though time is seemingly in abundance when we have nothing to do, it passes far too quickly when we would prefer it to stand still.  We seem to worry more about how quickly we can finish the race than we do about the joy found along the way – or even the satisfaction derived from simply crossing the finish line as rest briefly before preparing to pursue the next opportunity.  People far too often worry needlessly about things outside of their control rather than identifying the things over which they have influence and acting upon them.  We fear that slowing down to appreciate the things around us will delay us from accomplishing our goal RATHER THAN adding value to the time spent invested to bring our dreams to fruition.  We often find ourselves slaves to the very clock we so desperately seek to master – trying to burn both ends of a twenty-four hour candle rather than brightening our way in a more measured manner.

I have heard many people complaining about the “lemons in their lives” rather than celebrating the opportunities they might have to make lemonade.  The weather is too hot (yet January and February will almost certainly bring complaints about it being too cold unless global warming exerts itself upon us).  I am too busy to exercise (several acquaintances were in accidents this past year that took from them the ability to freely move about – I’m sure they wish “being busy” was all that kept them from exercising their bodies and their minds).  Rather than finding satisfaction in all they have accomplished, some see only what has not been finished due to a lack of time.  Some constantly seek what they wish they had rather than what they actually possess.  Many elevate the accomplishments of others rather than looking for the difference that their own activities and actions bring about.  We have become a nation of complainers – bringing others down in order to make ourselves look better RATHER THAN elevating ourselves in order to pull others up with us. Perhaps we might take the opportunity to recognize individual accomplishment during this season of Olympic Pride.  Let us openly acknowledge the hard work and sacrifice those willing to “participate in the pain so they can enjoy the gain” put forth, and give freely our praise and encouragement as their efforts elevate them to heights not imagined.

Rather than rushing to judge others, take time to ask WHY someone acted in a way you might feel foolish.  Do not expedite your condemnation – take time to see if YOUR perspective might be the cause of your exasperation rather than another’s actions.  Offer advice and counsel rather than critically dismissing another’s action as being worthless, wrong or misguided.  Doing something for another because they may have done it wrong (or differently than you might have) provides but a short term “fix” as it changes only symptoms rather than altering behavior.  Providing fish gives someone a meal – teaching them how to catch
fish provides a long-term solution.  Telling someone how to do something resolves many a situation.  When we take the time to help identify alternative resolutions we prepare others to act independently in the future. Why hurry up to wait?  If you are going to have to wait anyway, use the time preparing for the journey.  You cannot control another’s behavior – only your own.  We are far too quick to blame and too slow to seek responsibility when we play the hurry up and wait game – often too determined assigning “fault” to seek (and implement) a workable solution.
 
When people rush to see how much they can do or see, they lessen the enjoyment of what they actually saw or accomplished.  They begin to measure life by the number of breaths they take – or the amount of activities they perform – rather than seeking and enjoying moments that might take their breath away or add depth and breadth to their existence.  To accomplish more we cannot merge our days and nights - life needs both light and darkness to exist.  We must remember, however that the bright lights of hope and promise generate the shadows in life that necessarily exist – that without a destination an obstacle standing in our way could never be overcome.

We cannot hold back the hands of time but we must not chase them blindly, racing relentlessly in a
continuous circle around the clock.  We must break free of the sands of time if we wish to conquer their grasp – if we hope to become all that was intended.  Perhaps rather than seeking longevity and good fortune from life, we should seek fullness and meaning.  Perhaps we could better measure our success by how many lives we have touched – by the differences we have made –than by how many things we have done or projects we have accomplished.