Some (particularly those afraid or unwilling to learn from failure) live by the axiom that setting low expectations will keep them from ever experiencing failure or being disappointed with less than stellar results. They live life by meandering aimlessly upon roads developed by others that typically are the straightest path from here to there as they avoid unexpected detours or excursions. They find comfort and security in the things that they know (and have seen) work – that may not bring the BEST results but have been proven to lead to a result that satisfies minimal needs. Those setting low expectations – fearing the pain of failure more than anticipating the rewards of success – may survive in life but will rarely experience the thrill of victory (OR the agony of defeat) as they exist within a world of getting by and making due rather than being exceptional and initiating change. While usually accomplishing that which is expected and predictable, they will rarely thrive or achieve their full potential.
We de-energize our relationships when we focus upon the shortcomings of others. When we pull others down – highlighting their deficiencies in an effort to elevate ourselves – we may rise to the top of a pool of mediocrity but will rarely reach the pinnacle of individual success to which we can pull others with us. How can we expect our accomplishments to be maximized if we focus upon what could go wrong rather than trying to identify alternative paths or directions that might provide better results? Rather than seeing failure as a destination that should be avoided at all costs (or exploited for personal gain should others experience it), perhaps much could be gained by viewing it as a springboard to success. Believing that the “light at the end of a tunnel” is an opportunity not yet realized rather than a train heading towards us on a collision course reflects the assimilation of dreams into daily reality.
We all have a past comprised of actions taken, relationships forged and things accomplished. We all have a present comprised of the things we choose to do and relationships we work to maintain. The future, however, is defined by what we allow ourselves to accept as our destiny. If our purpose is based on the things we have done and the memories of what we once had, we limit ourselves to a life already lived – our potential defined by what we have already experienced. If, however, our future is defined by the dreams and expectations expressed within the pages of a book not yet written – if we live within the premise that all we have done, all we have accomplished and all we currently have is but a premonition to what might yet remain to be discovered in our lives – our possibilities will remain pathways to a reality limited only by our blind acceptance of those things we accept as truth or the beliefs we accept as unalterable. Our dreams become reality when we anticipate and expect rather than simply holding thoughts tightly within the privacy of our individual hearts...when we awaken to accept the probability of things once considered to be but a distant possibility...when we actively follow the paths once hidden beneath the sands of time and imagination. It is ONLY THEN that we will realize our reality as we become all we were meant to be (rather than remaining what we have become or continually reliving what we once were).